The world does not revolve around you
When you begin to consider yourself as a centre of the universe, that’s when you start to develop a sense of entitlement. Having a constant feeling that the world owes you something just because you deserve it or because you claim the right is what becomes unhealthy for you mentally. This approach towards life prevents you from giving more to the world. It makes you feel that it is your right to be at the receiving end always. The feeling that you deserve to receive well from the world because of what might have happened with you in the past or just because of who you are fuels your urge to keep on making unrealistic demands from life.
This state of mind often leads people to turn bitter because they are always occupied in thinking about all that they do not have instead of enjoying what they have. This makes them miss out on some of the best moments of life.
The problem with such a mindset occurs when one stops realising a few very important life tips:
Life is not meant to be fair. Some people get more, some people get less. No one experiences a similar life. We often end up buying something unaffordable out of sheer needlessness by justifying that we deserve it because someone else had bought it too is an extremely unhealthy and unjust decision made by us.
You are not the only one with the problems. Everyone has their fair share of problems. Some overcome the worst of their problems, while some have a hard time coping up because their minds keep dwelling in thoughts such as why that happened to them. They spend most of their time in complaining and whining instead of looking for ways to move ahead. They do not enjoy listening to others because they are too much occupied in talking about themselves.
You have to put in your time, efforts and hard work to live the life you want and if you still do not end up with what you desired, then you might need to change the direction of doing things.
No one is perfect. Not you, not me, not my parents, not your parents, not her husband, not his wife. Everyone contains flaws and whether you accept them or not, you can not deny the fact that they constitute an integral part of who you are. You can always work to improve them.
Expecting to be treated better or to be cared for better by a spouse, friend, or anyone close and subsequently putting yourself in a bad mood because they failed to come up to your expectations makes the distances grow in a relationship. Focus on your efforts, think about the others, develop empathy and be a participant in a relationship.
In order to move ahead in life with a sense of peace and tranquility, you need to stop making demands from all areas of life. You need to stop taking and start giving. Above all, you need to be satisfied with what life hurls at you. You need to stop complaining. That is why they say when life gives you lemons, make lemonade. Maybe, add some mint leaves, ice cubes to it and enjoy a chilled mint lemonade.
(I wrote this a couple of years ago on Wordpress after being inspired by a book I read. Since, I’m planning to be more consistent here so thought of posting it here as well)